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My
husband does not treat me in a good and proper fashion
Question:
I have been married for about 25 years. I have numerous sons
and daughters. I always face difficulties from my husband.
He humiliates me in front of my children, close relatives
and others. He never gives me any credit. The only time I
feel rest is when I leave the house, although he does pray
and he fears Allaah. Please guide me to the best path I should
follow.
Response:
It is obligatory upon you to have patience and to advise him
to act in the best way. Remind him of Allaah and the Hereafter.
Perhaps he will respond and return to what is correct. Perhaps
he will give up his evil behaviour. If he does not, the sin
is upon him and you will get a great reward for your patience
and bearing his harm. It is sanctioned for you to supplicate
for him in your prayer and at other times, that Allaah may
guide him to what is correct, bless him with proper behaviour
and protect you from his evil and the evil of others.
You
also should take account of yourself and be steadfast in your
faith. You should also repent to Allaah for whatever you have
done in the past of evils and mistakes with respect to the
right of Allaah, the right of your husband or others' rights.
Perhaps he has been given this control over you because of
some sin that you have committed. Allaah has stated:
{And whatever of misfortune befalls
you, it is because of what your hands have earned. And He
pardons much}, [Soorah
ash-Shoora, Aayah
30].
There
is nothing to keep you from asking his father, mother, older
brothers, any relative he respects or neighbors to advise
him and encourage him to treat you properly, in response to
Allaah's statements:
{Live with them honorably},
[Soorah
an-Nisaa., Aayah
19].
Allaah
also says:
{And they (women) have rights similar
to those over them according to what is reasonable. But men
have a degree [of responsibility] over them}, [Soorah
al-Baqarah, Aayah
228].
May
Allaah improve your affairs, guide your husband and return
him to what is correct.
May
Allaah also gather the two of you together in goodness and
guidance. He is the Generous, the Noble.
Shaykh
Ibn Baaz
Fataawa al-Mar.ah
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