Sincere advice to relatives

Reference: Fataawa Mu’aasirah – Pages 236-237
Liqaa’aat al-Baab al-Maftooh – No.1307

Question: He is in the habit of visiting his relatives, and these relatives have some [things of a] reprehensible [nature] in their homes such as a satellite dish. Bearing in mind they know it is prohibited, should he then stop visiting them, or should he continue to visit them?

Response: If he has relatives, then it is obligatory that he maintain ties of kinship [with them], even if he is not pleased with how they are, because Allaah (Ta’aala) says:

{And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination. But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness…}, soorah Luqmaan, aayahs 14-15

And He did not say ‘kill them’, rather, he said:

{…accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness…}, soorah Luqmaan, aayah 15

And likewise, maintaining ties of kinship is obligatory, even if he is not pleased with how they are. So it is obligatory upon him to maintain [ties of kinship with them], even if they have a satellite dish. [Sadly] many people use [these satellite dishes] for prohibited purposes, and woefully waste their time and wealth over it, and as a result it has corrupted the character and mindset of many people. So if they use it for prohibited purposes whilst he is visiting them, then he must leave so he is not party to their sin.

And along with this, we advise everyone to fulfil the rights of their relatives by offering sincere advice [to them]. So they should go to them and advise them and clarify to them that this is prohibited – namely, watching prohibited content, and [by doing so] they have fulfilled what Allaah has obligated upon them in terms of offering sincere advice and [maintaining] good dealings with them.

Abu 'Abdullaah

About Abu 'Abdullaah

– from London, UK. He is a graduate of the Islaamic University of Madeenah, having graduated from the Institute of Arabic Language, and later the Faculty of Sharee’ah in 2004.