As a father, it is not your job to remove the thorns from the path of your child – out of fear they may scratch.
Some children give their parents gifts, and this is nice, and being good to them, and [a show of] affection [to them] – may Allaah reward them with good.
I have parents who are both of old age; my father is 75 years old, and my mother is 70. If I were to perform ‘umrah [ each on their behalf] and gifted its reward to them – while they are still alive – will they be rewarded for it?
From the correct understanding and etiquette of honouring our parents and being dutiful to them is that when we are with them, we only mention the good deeds and qualities of our sisters and brothers, and hide their bad.