The importance of good manners

Reference: Ghaaratul-Ashritah ‘alaa Ahlil-Jahli was-Safsatah – Volume 1, Page 98

Question: We find some of the Salafis harsh in their speech and in their da’wah and with their families; And if they see a man who is not from amongst them, they grimace at him, which is contrary to what we find from the Ikhwaan al-Muslimeen; Good manners is what is lacking in us, so we need sincere advice from you, and may Allaah reward you with good.

Response: This is an important matter and that is to advise one another about good manners. Allaah (Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala) says regarding the Prophet (sal-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam):

{And verily, you are on an exalted (standard of) character}, soorah al-Qalam, aayah 4

And He (Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala) says:

{And by the Mercy of Allaah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about you; so pass over (their faults), and ask (Allaah’s) forgiveness for them; and consult them in the affairs}, soorah Aal ‘Imraan, aayah 109

And this [harsh] Salafi was probably a beginner in seeking knowledge, as the norm with beginners is that they are a little zealous and harsh – whether he is a Salafi or Ikhwaani or other than that. And this is what we and others have experienced. Otherwise, and all Praise is due to Allaah [alone], our brothers freely mix with their brothers in al-Hudaydah, Taa’iz, Aden and Hadramout, and the people receive them and welcome them with love and respect, and this is evidence that they are exposed to good and honourable manners, and Allaahul-Musta’aan (Allaah is the One from whom Assistance is sought).

Abu 'Abdullaah, Mohammed Akhtar Chaudhry

About Abu 'Abdullaah, Mohammed Akhtar Chaudhry

- from London, UK. He is a graduate of the Islaamic University of Madeenah, having graduated from the Institute of Arabic Language, and later the Faculty of Sharee'ah in 2004.