Fasted the whole day and saw three drops of menses blood

Does the passing of wind (flatulence) from a male and female necessitate washing the affected area with water? And what is required of the woman from whom three drops of blood came out at the expected time of the onset of her menses whilst she is fasting and then stopped?

Too shy to tell my mother I had started my menses

I am a young woman and my menses began when I was 14 years [of age], and I was too shy to tell my mother about it. So after Ramadhaan I did not make up [the fasts] which I was required to, bearing in mind that this was 11 years ago, so what is the ruling regarding that considering I am now married?