I live [together] with my father, my mother, my wife and my brothers in one house, and sometimes I bring something specifically for my wife to eat – without my parents knowing [about it]. And privately together, my wife and I eat; so what is the ruling regarding that?
Is calling the mother by her name considered as [being] disobedient to her? And [what] if I have become used to this, and she is fine with that – so would this be permissible?
When I want to give in charity to my relatives and [those of] my friends who are in need – my mother opposes me in this, claiming that I am squandering my money without benefit, and that I should save my money for what will benefit me later.
I am a young man who works, and I give my father my salary – even though my father always [verbally] abuses me, and accuses me of falling short in honouring him by hiding some of my salary and [instead] give it to my wife.
My father died a long while ago, and he is [buried in a graveyard] far away from [where I live], and [as such] I am unable to visit him except after two or three years. So is it possible for me to honour him with anything, since I [live so] far away from him?
[Please] guide me to good deeds which I can do so [their reward] reach my father, and may you be rewarded.