Reference: Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa.imah lil-Buhooth al-'Ilmiyyah wal-Iftaa. v12 p364 q6 of no.5666
Question: Whenever my family have any occasion (gathering) such as a wedding, circumcision or funeral, in the wedding and circumcision celebrations they use a drum and make ululations of joy, and on the occasion of a death they wail in an outrageous manner. So is it right for me to go to these gatherings or not when they practice these innovations?
Response: It is not permissible for you to go to a gathering in which these evil actions take place, unless you are able to [interfere and] put a stop to these innovations and advise them and teach them in a good manner. [If you are able to do this,] then go and enjoin the good and forbid the evil, [otherwise, it is not permissible for you to go].
And with Allaah lies all success and may Allaah send prayers and salutations upon our Prophet ﷺ and his family and his companions.
