Boycotting between brothers

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Question: He says after the death of my father, there ensued a financial disagreement between me and my brother; and this disagreement has [now] continued [between us] for [many] years.

So, I sought refuge [in Allaah] from Shaytaan the accursed, and began to telephone him and show kindness to him, but he does not reciprocate.

I [also] began to visit him with my children to initiate an air of politeness [between us], but he does not let us in[to his house].

So what should my position [now] be [towards my brother], as I feel pain [at our deteriorating state of affairs] O noble Shaykh, as my father and mother have [both] passed away?

Response: You have fulfilled that which was obligatory upon you to do, and he is sinful in [continuing to maintain] this boycott of you.

So continue to fulfill your obligation [towards him], and [continue to] telephone him, and visit him; and if he was to respond to you in kind [then that which was desired has been achieved], otherwise the sin shall be upon him [for continuing to boycott you].

He ﷺ said:

«It is not permissible for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three [days]; each of them turning away from the other when they meet. The better of them is the one who extends the greeting of as-Salaam first.» [al-Bukhaaree and Muslim]

Translation originally published on 23 November, 2015

He is a graduate of the Islaamic University of Madeenah, having graduated from the Institute of Arabic Language, and later the Faculty of Sharee'ah in 2004. He currently resides in Birmingham, UK.

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