Reference: ad-Durar an-Naasirah fil-Fataawa al-Mu'aasirah p666-667
ad-Da'wah 1564, Jumaada ath-Thaanee 1417 AH
Question: Does advising the parents against detested speech or actions encroach upon their rights upon us?
Response: It is obligatory upon the Muslims to honour their parents, show kindness towards them and gentleness and mercy, as Allaah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) says:
And He (subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) [also] says:
And He ﷻ [also] says:
So if he sees in them anything detestable, then he is to advise them with good manners, gentleness and mercy; And in doing so, he can seek the assistance of someone whom his parents respect and appreciate his advice, being careful not to scold them nor be severe in speech towards them, in accordance to that which has preceded from the [aforementioned] Aayaat, and the statement of the Prophet ﷺ when he was asked about which action is the best? And He ﷺ replied:
...and it was said to him, "Then which?" And he replied:
...and it was said to him, "Then which?" And he replied:
